Ask A D.C. Native: What do you wish more people did to be better neighbors?

D.C.’s unique energy is distinctive and palpable — each neighborhood tells its own story and celebrates a wide array of identities. Many people have weighed in on what it means to be a good neighbor in the District (check out this article, as well as this discussion), offering tips that help make this city of quadrants feel like a single, thriving community. 

As a third-generation D.C. native, I’ve seen the city evolve, holding on through the ebbs and flows while maintaining deep and personal connections. I’ve witnessed the sweeping transformation of neighborhoods — both in the landscape and population. What was once a more relaxed, steady rhythm has sped up significantly, blending a mix of old and new energy. While some neighborhoods have managed to preserve their roots, others have taken on a polished, upscale feel — bringing economic growth but also pushing out longtime residents who once defined these spaces. 

For many of us natives, the familiar sights and sounds that colored our childhood experiences — candy ladies, local shops, block parties, stoop conversations — have gradually faded. But one thing that endures is our collective drive for connection and community. 

Here are a few tips to keep in mind as you consider these values and craft your own style of neighborliness.

Take small actions that have a lasting impact 

• Embrace the mix: D.C. has a lively mix of backgrounds and perspectives. Even if you don’t always see eye-to-eye with your neighbors, being respectful and open-minded makes your building, block, or neighborhood more inclusive and welcoming for all.
• Be open and communicative: If you’re planning a party or renovations, give your neighbors a heads-up. Friendliness and transparency make it easier to work through any issues that might arise.
• Show up for the community: Small gestures, from joining a monthly cleanup to supporting local shops, can build strong connections. Saying “hi” to neighbors might seem small, but it makes a difference!
• Keep the noise down and respect space: In close quarters like apartment buildings, noise control goes a long way, especially at night. Being mindful of shared spaces like hallways and elevators adds to a friendly, considerate atmosphere.
• Maintain your shared resources: Clean and accessible common areas like laundry rooms or community spaces create a positive experience for everyone.
• Get involved: Consider joining your neighborhood listserv, community garden group, school board, or civic association. Many of these groups plan local events, organize beautification projects, and play a role in infrastructure planning — all of which add to your local pride and sense of community.
• Learn before you lead: Before advocating for change, get to know your neighborhood’s history and its people. Understanding the roots of your community will help you be a respectful, informed neighbor who works alongside others, honoring their experiences and stories.

Get familiar with local resources 

In D.C., a little knowledge goes a long way. Knowing where to point someone in need or where to go to solve a neighborhood issue can make all the difference. Here are a few resources that can help you make an impact or resolve problems respectfully:

• Everyone Home DC: Their slogan says it all, “Be a good neighbor.” They offer vital support to D.C. residents facing homelessness and housing challenges. Their site also provides information on how you can get involved.
• DC Villages: This network of thirteen “villages” aims to reduce isolation among older adults, promote health, and foster community connections. They help people age in place and feel supported in their own neighborhoods.
• Capital Area Food Bank: With a search tool to locate food banks nearby, this organization makes it easy to lend a hand to neighbors experiencing food insecurity.
• Multi-Door Dispute Resolution Division: Multi-Door is all about resolving disputes without the drama. Through mediation and alternative dispute resolution, they provide an accessible way to work out conflicts — helping neighbors settle differences peacefully and promoting lasting community ties.
• Wendt Center for Loss and Healing: Nationally recognized for its expertise in grief and trauma, the Wendt Center provides support for people navigating loss, illness, or other crises. With services for all ages, they help people in the D.C. area find renewed hope and resilience.

Reflecting on what it means to be a good neighbor in today’s D.C., I think it's about balancing the character of existing communities and people and embracing the city’s inevitable changes. Building connections takes effort, but when we aim for harmony, everyone benefits.

My wish is that more people consider this question for themselves, so the city can experience the beauty that comes from answering a neighbor’s call.